love like you never loved before

a friend lost her daughter in a car accident. how did we survive all these years? how did i not lose a sister, a brother, a lover? losing a loved one, young, unexpected, in an accident, how can this be reconciled? you get older and think you've gone through it all and just when you think you've nailed it, the longest journey, the most arduous, insurmountable experience comes knocking on your door unannounced. how to help each other through this... that is the question. how to love like you never loved before.